Unusual Channel
By Ma. Renette B. Uy

A candid life

Philippe and I just celebrated our fifth year of being together as husband and wife. It was five years ago when he asked me to marry him and so we did, civilly at first, then two years after, we married in the Catholic Church. It was quite a rough first two years for us. I know, I know we are just into our fifth year and I am sure a lot will say that we have a lot of years to overcome and to adjust. What I am trying to say is…it's been a rough two years because we had to move from Manila to Iloilo, from my mother's house to my brother's until we finally found our own place to live, thanks to a very good and dear friend, Ting! It was rough considering we had with us then our one year old baby boy to take care of course. Not to mention how we will be able to survive. But there was the fun part before we moved into our new home four years ago. We did the fixing and painting of the house. We painted it with the colors both of us actually liked. It was yellow, apple green, Mexican orange and light blue. Our friends donated some fixtures. Philippe and I put it all together, and Voile! A simple house! Little by little we were able to put in things and as of the moment, all the spaces that were once empty are now part of our memories, combined together, like a puzzle, we pieced it all carefully and lovingly.

I remember how we had to adjust with the kind of life we have now. Our adjustment was not so much with each other. We get along so well. Of course, we had our arguments and mind you it was super arguments. However, it was part of our married life and adjustment with each other, no big deal! Anyway, our adjustment was more of what was happening around us. The people, especially and how we were able to find a way to earn a living. It was not only rough, it was tough as well. Philippe and I have always been candid about the life we have now. It's an open book and we both believe that as long as we don't hurt anyone, we are okay. I say candid because with what both of us had to go through several years back, it humbled us both. Life is not easy but we had each other so it was not that difficult to face the “life that is not easy” part! Am I making sense or what?

I say most of our adjustment was with the different people around us because both of us do not exactly live to please everybody. And we don't. We just do our thing, if others do not like it, no skin off our backs and like I said as long as we don't hurt anyone. I say this because, there are I guess people who live in this world just to criticize. That is all they do notwithstanding their own imperfections. People who are this way actually, in my opinion? These are really sad, envious and selfish people. I did not share my opinion also because I judge them. Of course not! I won't be the judge of any character and either I am not saying we are perfect, we're not! Who is! Since I mentioned it as my opinion, let me just say also that for you out there who live to criticize…loosen up, whatever hurts you have, cure it by learning to love yourself, then other people. Turn to God for comfort, don't make other people as your punching bags. Learn to accept people that they are not like you and that each person has a limitation. Learn to say something nice if you can help it. If you can't, try being quiet instead. Less talk, less mistakes. Give love more than anything and I guess, forgive but not forget (deep, huh?).

Five years of being married to Philippe is a blast! “All my life, I prayed for someone like you” (one of my favorite songs). Answered prayer? Absolutely! Next month we will be celebrating our three years of marriage in a Catholic Church. We are blessed with two beautiful boys (singkit na singkit hehe) and we are surrounded by a lot of people in the BLD community who love and support us always. Most of all, we are in the constant grace of our Creator and Savior, Jesus. What more can we ask for? Life is a challenge, take it or leave it!

“Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve your benefits in stone.”

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I would like to greet THE NEWS TODAY a HAPPY, HAPPY FIVE YEARS ANNIVERSARY! Where's the party?!?!! More power and here I go again…to those who say that nobody reads us…hah! Eat your heart out, you envious people you! Kudos to all the great writers of TNT…I read all the columns including mine of course, hehe…you guys are great, I enjoyed reading and learning from you!