Impulses
Marital paroxysm
Ateneo de Manila is up for the UAAP finals. The Ilonggo bigman Ken Bono-led Adamson failed to push for a sudden death match after losing to the "Hail Mary Team" in their semifinal joust last Sunday.
I do hope that AdMU (mind you, one of the team's rookie ball handlers is jitterbug Emman Monfort who comes from sister school Ateneo de Iloilo) will grab the crown easily in the finals. Go 'teneo! One big fight for the blue eagles!
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Here, Ateneo de Iloilo is also in its gung-ho mood as it qualifies in the finals of Milo SBP and Passerelle. This Saturday at the Iloilo Chinese Commercial High School, it will vie for the grade school level against University of San Agustin, and versus towering host Washiong for the high school mark.
One big fight for the blue dragons!
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Also this Saturday, the Westbridge School-sponsored seminar on "Teens, Love, and Education on Sexuality…The Right Approach" is slated at Amigo Terrace Hotel Ballroom from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Seminar fee is P350 (pre-registration) or P450 for walk-ins.
The confab will highlight wisdom from the International Congress in Mexico about education on Affectivity and Sexuality.
See you there!
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A forwarded text message from a friend, Joseph Teruel: What is the secret of success?
Right decisions
How do you make right decisions?
Experience
How do you get experience?
Wrong decisions
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I just remember the issue that was and is still being discussed in Congress, the passing of a divorce law.
Some are so definite that they strongly oppose any hint of a proposal in favor of divorce. They opine that "What God has put together let no one put asunder."
True. But What does that really mean? Should the lovely phrase be taken literally or figuratively?
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Let me start by saying that we have, at least, the Family Code to look into. Hiding from the cloak of annulment of marriage under Article 36, divorce can be appealed if there is enough psychological ground for it.
With this, the logic of the anti-divorce people is out of sync; they may be misinformed, to say the least.
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The difference is that in the Philippines, the psychological ground for annulment is lesser and costlier than divorce. It's easier to get a divorce in other countries where the rules are more relaxed than the present law. In effect we have divorce, but, sad to say, only the rich can afford to have annulment. Poor couples instead resort to adultery or bigamy, or worse, they live beyond legal, yet socially accepted, marital standards.
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Thus, divorce is a logical potion for incorrigible marital relationships and to solve social anomalies.
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Many want, more so need, it. Surprisingly a great number despise it, hence to believe that we are a nation of confused hypocrites is an understatement. For the skeptics I ask you this: Why prolong the agony of a couple if they find married life hellish? Why continue the paroxysm if their union has become tantamount to a life sentence?
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We have to accept the fact that there are marriages that are irreparable, like in cases of domestic abuse. If there's no way for a married couple to get along, it's an injustice if they are still considered married in the eyes of the people under the law. Why will you force a warring couple to live together? It will have a more negative impact on the children as they grow. Kids need not live in an atmosphere of hate and deceit. Isn't it logical to give them a chance, a way out?
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In Islamic law, divorce is recognized. The Catholic Church allows divorce to a certain extent. Most Christian and developed countries, even Rome, have divorce. Borrowing it from once senatoriable Perfecto Yasay, I ask: Why should we be more pious than The Pontiff?
I don't see any reason why it should not be legalized if one will base his reasoning with secular precepts.
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Why should we be hostile to change? Why can't we accept reality? We have enough reason to scorn old-fashioned and backward views to the spine. Poverty, criminality, overpopulation and illiteracy are just few of the many effects these social and psychological viruses bring about. Shall we allow our country to backslide further?
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(Engr. Herman Lagon may be reached through h_lagon@yahoo.com.)