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Women and the art of flirting
Single and available.
Those are the two foremost requirements in order for one to figure in a dating scene. For women, another requirement is guts. Let's face it. Nowadays, half of the effort do not only come from men but from women. So, girls, you need the guts to do that first move, too. Gone are the days when women who make the first move are branded as sluts.
If a woman just its back and waits for a man, she will never get to choose the man she'll date. Women should take the active stance in choosing a love partner. In fact, being approached is like a compliment to a man even if he is not interested in a a relationship.
I've asked some friends who are successful in the dating game and these are what they have to share.
The first move normally requires approaching the man. "Give him that eye contact and your sweetest smile. Then after a few minutes, approach him," according to Daphney Villarica, a 36-year-old businesswoman and a classmate of mine in Maryknoll.
Then, start flirting, she said. "Flirting is a cheerful way for a woman to attract a man. And men desire this. In fact, men avoid women who can't flirt and lack the ability to use any form of communication to that effect."
She advised that starting an appropriate conversation is the first step in flirting. Another step is complimenting a man and he will surely fall for this sweet gesture. You can express sincere interest in his achievement, be understanding towards him and make him feel special than the rest. Even if it's boring, try to laugh at his jokes so he'll feel appreciated.
Okay, after that casual conversation with him, how do you prepare yourself for that second meeting, if you do want it. And what if the conversation led to nothing more than being friends. Your purpose is to show a guy you have romantic intentions towards him, right?
"Build an affiliation with him. Tell him you'd like to see him again. Try inviting him for coffee. There, you could talk about everything under the sun. This will make both of you relaxed," said Rachel Santos, 27, an insurance broker who recently married the man she picked up in a bar two years ago. "Let him know that you expect him to call you and perhaps set another date for coffee. The more encounters you have, the more personal stuff you'll get to talk about. Before you know it, you're having coffee regularly," she added.
"Don't forget to tell him you had a great time," according to Jun Alba, 31, a programmer. "That way, I'll know if I have done the right thing or not. That way, I am assured that there will be a second date for us. It's easier for men to make a move when he sees that a woman is also interested," he added.
Lastly, avoid having sex with a man you just met and if you're not serious with him. As they say, save the best only for those you truly care about. Now, that's coming from me.
Happy dating!