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Finding a consistent source of happiness
Last Sunday, a friend of mine and I had lunch. Over a simple serving of Broccoli and Pork Rolls, I found out a very sad story.
A wife of a seaman spent all her husband's allotment on a lover who happens to be a call boy. She spent almost half a million on him. When the husband found out about this, he cut off ties with her. Sensing that she could no longer take good care of him, the lover left her, too. Now, she's living off family and friends' financial help.
And this tragedy is all because one has trusted so much and without reservations, thinking that the object of her love would bring her happiness.
I'm nobody to judge her, but her lesson should serve as an eye opener on relationships and seeking out what can truly make us happy.
Some people, because of circumstances, use others for their personal gain. And those who are desperate for love and attention normally just jump to relationships without thinking if that person is worth her or his time or not or if that person really cares about him or her. Or is he or she just after your money or connections?
I believe that when people love, there should always be reservations. One should be very careful. There should always be a lot more left for oneself. So that when the relationship goes sour, you are still intact. And by being intact, you need not resort to cheap tactics like stalking your ex or texting him or her some nasty words just because it was all your fault that you fell for a loser anyway.
I know of someone who gave up her dreams just so she could serve this person she loves. This guy ended up verbally abusing her and cheated on her many times. The glow that used to be in her eyes when the relationship was new is no longer there when the novelty wore off. Being fed up of this, she decided that enough is enough. She's now into activities that are helping her become a better individual. She is now a woman who can stand up on her own and will never be bullied anymore.
Like her, it's never too late indeed to stand up, learn from the past and become your own person.
Most often, we think that another person could complete us or make use happy. But people are not perfect. People are not consistent. The same with things. You think a cool car, a great house, beautiful clothes and shoes could bring you happiness. But these change. They fade. So, if you anchor your confidence on these "inconsistencies", you will never be truly happy.
With a mindset that only God is consistent and that He alone remains unwavering while we hold on to Him, we could avoid getting caught up in "inconsistent" sources of happiness. When you feel so alone, don't ever be tempted in thinking that you are. We are never alone.