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Faking it
Yesterday, my girlfriends and I had a very interesting lunch. We normally meet up when one of us badly need some company and sound advice. Otherwise, we're all focused on earning a living and putting our respective homes and careers in order. Unfortunately, I was the recipient of such a meeting.
Anyway, apart from our usual favorites of at Emilion General Luna, our topic was on orgasm and how many women fake it. Blame it on the magazine that Friend C brought with her. There was an article there on reaching orgasms.
Ever since the art of sex was known, it seems that most women had been faking it, especially those who are not capable of doing so. This is called anorgasmia, a condition where a person is unable to have orgasms. Another reason is a woman may be tired and would like to go through with sex without hurting the partner's feelings.
Sensing that this could be a great topic for my blog (friend Troy said sometimes my columns are sentimental so I was challenged to write this one), I asked everyone on the table whether or not they faked an orgasm. They allowed me to use their comments in this column, but no names, please.
Friend A revealed that she does not reach orgasm through penetration, so, she had to fake it a lot of times in order to please her partner. "Why can't you be honest with him right from the start? Isn't it better that way?" I asked. She answered, "Pressure." Oh okay, I can't blame her.
Friend B said she never fakes orgasm. "I always tell my partner I'm happy being with him. That's what matters," she said. "Faking orgasm is like lying to myself and him. It does not make sense," she added. I asked her, "Is it okay with him?" She said, "Well, yeah. I assured him I'm really satisfied even without orgasm."
Then Friend C butted in. "Do you know that men also fake orgasms?" Our mouths were left hanging. That was new information for us. "Yes, one reason is if a male is scared that the woman will find out he has erectile dysfunction. There are some who stops the sex before he loses his erection," C said.
Friend D butted in. "You know how men are .... their masculinity is very important to them. And he can brag about this within conversations with his friends."
That topic brought one question to mind. Do men know if women are faking it? I immediately called some male friends and got their opinion.
MC said yes, he can sense if a girl fakes orgasm. "I've been with too many women to know that," he bragged. "One obvious proof is when she fakes it and she's not even wet! She should be blushing, beaming and breathing really lots. Now, that's real."
JM on other hand, said that women go wild when they reach the big O. "And if she's still looking at you like a lovestruck teenager, she's probably faking it."
"And oh, here's two more," JM said. "The boobs become flushed. Then, when you're inside, you'll feel the contraction. Now, that's the big O."
And how would you feel when your woman fakes the O? MC said, "I feel cheated."
From this I realized that indeed honesty is always the best way to go. Telling the truth and opening communication lines promotes trust. For the women and men who fake it, I don't think you're solving any problem here. By telling the truth, you can both work on a better strategy on improving your sex life. You'll also know if this person really cares about you or not by his or her acceptance of who you are.
Plus, it can be quite embarrassing when you find out that your partner knew all along that you were faking it and he or she just decided to keep quiet about it.
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