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That one time
Some of those in the partying scene can attest to having experienced a "one night stand" in their life. For some who do not like having one night stands and promised themselves they don't want to do it ever, do not overestimate yourself. Because after too many drinks, you'd be surprised you could actually do it, too. Alcohol has a way of making you do crazy stuff you can't imagine doing. Hook-ups usually happen when you are highly intoxicated.
There are some who say that one night stands are empty and unsatisfying, there are some who really had a great time (as if they were doing it with the person they love) and there are some who believe it's a normal thing that's worth doing at least once in one's lifetime.
I've asked several acquaintances and these are what they have to say ...
Justin, 35, events organizer, said that he had his share of one night stands. "There is nothing wrong with it as long as you enjoy it. Although I make sure that girl is not in a relationship. I have this mantra about not coveting what's not yours hehehe," he said. "And I found love from this one. Gracie and I communicated two weeks after that one night and we started going out. We're going on two years now," he added.
"It's no big deal actually. I did it many times before. But I always check if there's a wedding ring. I wouldn't want to be hooked up with a married guy. I don't like betraying my kind," said Shaina Alba, a student.
"Before, I wasn't really bothered about one night stands. But after this one bad experience I had, I've been wary," said Jessica. She related that she got so drunk she hit it off with a stranger and did not wear protection. A week later, she got the crabs. "So, if you can't help yourself, at least, insist on protection."
"What the heck. Just bring some protection with you. What's the big deal?" said Mandy, a pharmacist, when I asked about her opinion on the matter.
But then, it's not just the danger of having sexually transmitted infection that you have to face. There's danger to your life and safety or your existing relationship.
In the United States, several women had been bettered by strangers they picked up in a bar. Some men end up being robbed.
Maria, 38, said that she lost her boyfriend because of her indiscretion. "I got so drunk once and hit it off with my boyfriend's friend. My boyfriend found out about this and we broke up," she said. From this experience, she advises that one should avoid hooking up with somebody close to people you know. It is rare that a one night stand is kept secret, she said.
A fashion designer friend said that having a one-night stand is an abomination. "Sex is something you should share with the one you love," he said. An active partygoer himself, he boasts of being a virgin until now.
"What I like about one night stands when intoxicated is that drunk people don't remember much. So, if I performed badly because I had too much beer, she wouldn't remember," said Patrick, a call center representative.
Here's an excerpt from an article that a friend shared to me yesterday. "One night stands are to relationships what short stories are to novels – a sexual encounter between strangers who hope they will never see each other again. The relationship begins and ends within a few hours and consequently one is spared the tedium of engagements, breeding, ageing and cuddling. All you get is the sex – it’s a bit like licking off the icing before feeding the rest of the cake to the dogs."