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Cheat codes
No, this is not an article about cheat codes in computer games. I just felt that this is a shorter title for a topic that recently fell on my lap.
I often hear stories of men cheating on their wives and girlfriends and vice versa. There used to be a time when I feel dismayed until the time came when I'm finally resigned to the fact that shit happensto people. For gay relationships, it's even worse. Already, there's that usual feeling of betrayal. Add to that the feeling of being used.
Last Saturday, my friends and I got together and our topic was how gay relationships come to an end. Some instances were worthy of being turned into a film and enough to find it on print.
Ariel and Dan met in a resort in Boracay and they immediately hit if off. However, Dan had to go back to Manila after his project in Boracay. Ariel, wanting to be with him, decided to leave his obligations in Iloilo to live with Ariel in his condominium in a posh subdivision in Manila. Well, the relationship went very smoothly. But one evening, Ariel came home and caught Dan making love to another man. No tears and no theatrics whatsoever, Ariel quietly packed his bags, went out of the house and walked all the way to the subdivision's entrance. At midnight when the air was really chilly.
Justin and Mark met in another island resort and their friendship blossomed into something deeper. Mark even introduced Justin to his mother and sister.
Sometime later, Mark prodded Justin to go with him to Hongkong. Justin, despite being busy with projects here, decided to go for fear that with Mark being alone in Hongkong, he might meet someone and their relationship will go poof! So, Justin bought his ticket and let Mark keep them because the trip was a couple of months away. Then, weeks later, Mark cut off all communications. Justin, already in panic, asked Mark to return the ticket, to which the lover answered, "I lost the ticket." Justin was flabbergasted and felt that something was really wrong. So, he went to the travel agent and declared the ticket as lost.
Weeks later, Mark's mother called Justin and told him that her son's in the hospital for severe diarrhea. It has always been Justin's nature to be kind and selfless, so he went to the hospital and served like Mark's caregiver. Mark was shitting like crazy and Justin was there to clean it up for him. Talk about love.
"Why are you so good to me?" Mark asked Justin, to which he answered, he cares.
"I'll return your ticket to you," Mark said and Justin was taken aback. U-huh, the ticket's with him all the while? Justin thought incredulously.
To make the long story short, Mark got well and he was nowhere to be found again. And when Justin went to the travel agent, he could no longer refund his ticket because he declared it lost. Meanwhile, he found out that Mark's ticket was refunded. Talk about a con artist.
Remo, an Ilonggo and John, a Manileño are physical therapists. They met during a physical therapy training, became friends and eventually, lovers. Remo introduced John to his friends, including one named Allan. A few weeks later, Allan confided to Remo that John had been texting him. He wanted Remo to know that his lover couldn't be trusted. One of the text messages that Allan showed Remo went like this: "I will leave Remo for you." Of course, Remo felt hurt but was thankful that Allan had been a loyal friend. In the end, Remo dumped John.
Nathan, a theater actor had been living with his straight lover named Frederick for five years now. They, along with another gay friend, Tim always party together. Everytime that Nathan and Frederick have a misunderstanding, the latter would call Tim for his advice and company. Tim felt that his loyalty was on the straight guy because the latter's handsome, got a great body and has an oozing appeal. He did not think for one second that Nathan is also his friend. Then as months passed, Tim started to offer "proposals" to Frederick and the latter gave in. Nathan, who is well-loved by many, discovered this and now Tim is considered as an outcast. Meanwhile, Nathan and Frederick are still together yet the former no longer has peace of mind because of the latter's indiscretions.
So, why do some people cheat on their lovers who try their best to take good care of them? This is not just for gay lovers but for everybody in general.
One psychologist offered this answer: Because they are not secure of themselves financially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically.
There's also the issue of lack of communication.
"There's also this lack of sexual compatibility because maybe the other wants more because of this thing you call "the itch."
One friend commented, "Mas makati pa sila sa gabi hahaha."
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