The art of listening
After the aches sprouted inside my heart, I can say I feel better now. It is not easy to handle a problem that concerns a love relationship. Sometimes in my quiet moments I tend to ask myself how this person could do those things to me. Tears just simply dropped from my eyes as I reminisce the day when we had a terrible argument.
I admit I was partly to be blamed. In the days of having no communication, I've realized that I was so deaf when we were having the strong throwing of words on that Sunday night. I didn't even listen to the explanation and I concluded a different meaning basing on what I've partly known.
As days passed by and learning the art of realization, the argument we had was my best teacher to edify me about the value of listening.
The argument didn't turn worse or even to the worst part of our relationship if I just listened. It was one of my flaws and I admit it. Even though this person hurt me much still this person had the right to explain. However, I was deaf so to speak.
Perhaps, maybe I was blinded by the fact that this person hurt me emotionally that is why when this person explained to me, I didn't bother to listen at all. In addition, I was so angry that night and I was about to explode. Actually, I did.
Regret is what I feel. I keep on saying to myself, only if I have just listened. But I am so thankful for the days of making the relationship in a "cool off" situation because I was able to think for the better. As I've said in my previous write ups, it made me a better person not a bitter one. It made me realize how to open my ears to listen to someone first before giving a conclusion.
Sad to say it already happened. Yet, it was not the end of everything. We talked again after days of silence. And this time, I listened attentively to all the things that needed to be clarified and I was enlightened.
Aizlynn, a good student of mine who wrote How to Mend a Broken Heart, is indeed true, "Life is indeed full of challenges. If you stumble, learn to get back on your feet and live life making the most of it. Love is such an impossible thing to control. It often brings ache to our hearts. If it happens, let time heal the wounds for they say time heals everything."
When we had the time to think over, we would realize many things. I can't deny that my love for that person even grows. People around me would think I don't have the word because I already said "enough is enough" but I can't teach my heart not to love. There were days I lived in this line, "Head first before heart." But it was not that easy for me and yes, for that person, too. Until the day we talked and we cleared things out.
And we just realized, if only we just listened to each other. Maybe we didn't exchange line such as, "Anu ni natabo sa aton man?"
Listening is a very important tool in a relationship. From now on, I'll open my two ears to listen and my heart to love once again.