YOUNG VOICE
When the fights are worth it
It has been eight hours now, and I know it will take longer. I was watching him leave, defeated and rejected. My heart went out to him as he silently weeps. My eyes understood, as they also leaked with tears. His world came to a standstill while I rushed to the toilet to answer nature's call. My vision was still foggy with tears. Then I went back and pushed the 'play' button of my remote control and saw him come to life once more. Yes, I was once again watching an Asian drama series in just one sitting.
I'm a sucker for happy endings, like when she walks down the aisle as the theme song and flashbacks play. Yet, I am also thrilled with the scenes where she tells him they are not meant for each other. Although I cry my heart out, I expect more than those bone-tickling moments.
I may not have a wealth of experience, but from reality, I saw that relationships are made stronger by difficult times and failures. These give couples and friends the chance to evaluate themselves and see if they need to hold on or painfully let go. When my parents fight, it becomes an awkward experience for me. I am terrified of those heated moments when both of them take turns in a war of words filled with anxiety and regrets. I am most frightened that in the end I may have to choose whom I'll be living with after their separation. But, the moment they realized it was time to stop, the moment they realize it was time to rewind and start once more, the moment they begin to smile at each other again, is when those fears become meaningful. Their love successfully passed another exam.
Fights between closer relationships had always rooted up from one common scenario. It is when we forget to live together, and start to live on one's own. It may not appear to be such a huge factor, but little by little they all clog up until fixing it would be of no use. Husbands who at times fail to see that a wife needs more than financial stability; a simple hug, a simple kiss, a simple text message telling her where he is. These remind her that he values her through the simplest of his actions. Then, there are wives who at times fail to see that a husband has already enough of the nagging and bickering. For there is a calmer approach to misunderstandings, a sweet smile to welcome him home, a fiat to the career of taking care of his children. These remind him that she was that same charming woman he once fell in love with, that there is still a reason to strive and dig for the best, these remind him that she is still patient enough to stick with him through what has been and what will soon come.
Same goes to friends who have a role of complementing one another. And the fights that they had turn out to be one of their funniest topics. Those arguments made them see what each of them needs to change or improve to keep their friendship. Without debates, disagreements or misunderstandings there will be no thrill at all. Without them I wouldn't stay eight long hours reading some subtitles on screen. Without them no one could say they were meant for each other. Without them there wouldn't be such a thing called destiny.
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