Cerebral Combustion
Chronicles of a jealous wife
First there was FHM. I stopped him from buying it. And that was even before we got married. Second, watching adult videos. He is not permitted to watch it without me or I choose which video material to view. Third, downloading images of scantily clad women is a mortal sin. At least for me.
Occasionally, when I am not feeling overly bitchy over his desires for taking a glimpse of picturesque species in need of necessary coverings, I allow him to gawk at the unrestrained imagery a little and test the waters. Although this gawking occurrence rarely happens, I make sure I take note of each and every little gory detail as his response. I think as a result, men are naturally engrossed with a woman's body and all it takes is a little lie to escape from the wife's pestering.
I was deleting nuance files from our computer yesterday when by mistake I came across several images of Precious Adona in the desktop. I know my documents very well and I could not have downloaded the pictures myself. It had to be him. I hate being surprised especially if the surprise is not meant for me and thus this unexpected intruder could prove fatal to a day's altogether happy mood. All the while I thought he was only playing a basketball game in the computer he had to sleep late to win a match. Well, he thinks the girl was sexy so I made her the desktop background of the computer much to his phony exasperation. He deems me crazy for doing that. Okay Precious, you win.
Psychologists think women who over react to men's craving for saucy body figures of the opposite sex are crazy. It is not news, of course, that men are into this kind of things, porn -- soft-core, hardcore, print or video -- are practically readily available in every corner, these things cannot be easily avoided even if one intends to. Gender wise, men are naturally visual creatures and as the truth substantiate that fact, statistics shows that seventy percent of men around the planet view licentious images or adult videos once a month.
According to Sharon Supriya, psychologist and sex adviser, men's overt liking to lustful objects is nothing but a normal affair. In an article she stated that: Men are hardwired differently. They have got sex on the brain almost any time, if left all alone. This can be frustrating, torturous and downright excruciating. That is why watching porn is completely a normal activity as it relieves their tension. They don't see anything wrong in doing it. Rather they think watching porn is healthy and almost a necessity.
It is just a personal affair with no intimate harm to anybody. Watching porn is so normal for guys that they will even share their favorite DVDs and videos with their buddies as if, letting someone borrow a lawn mower. They are biologically programmed to respond to the sight of people having sex or of women with nothing on. Men tend to do it, to experience visual stimulants. In short, it is only a variety while keeping faithful. Do not get too offended by his actions.
Heather Hanson, a sex therapist, however has a different view. She wrote that while the habit of viewing can be acceptable it does not diminish the feeling of the man's partner when they learn that their significant other is getting a "rise" out of watching another woman. One cannot help but feel a comparison is being made out of every bambi in the block. Many women often implicate betrayal by the thought that perhaps they aren't good enough, otherwise why would their mates seek it? Others feel cheated believing that it is a break of trust and a deliberate put down considering possibly that they are not adequate to satisfy their man physically and sexually.
Perhaps it is just an innocuous, naughty habit but personally I think that while indulging in this seemingly harmless matter, men has a responsibility to be aware and be sensitive to their partners' feelings in a way that she doesn't deem herself less or threatened by the opulent display of nudity from other women. Otherwise, if the habit goes out of hand or is showing signs of anxiety for the relationship, talk it out. If you are in a relationship where one feels unhappy or insignificant, have an open conversation about your views and perceptions create compromises you can reach.