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Talking about LOVE once again
The month of February is the LOVE month, for some they referred it as the Heart’s Month. As my first write-up for this month, allow me to share again my thought about love. I do hope you can relate to this.
Love. It is one of the most abused words in the dictionary. Though Mr. Webster defines love as simply as it can, still people try to exploit the word. Humanly speaking, each one of us has its own way of defining the four-letter word. Let me remind you about what the scripture says to us, "love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth; love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away." (I Cor. 13:4-8) Love has all its possibilities. It never stops it just grows.
When we are in love, most of the time we can't express what we feel. We stumble. For some, they wait for this so called "spark" then that would be the best time to shout and rejoice, "I'm in love!" For others they get so paranoid. Can't eat, can't sleep, and can't do anything productive you just feel so in love as if you're floating in an empty sky.
As I always say, when cupid shoots you in the heart you have nowhere to either run or hide. You can't teach the heart to do these or do that. Your heart seeks for love. Though our brain dictates us to stop being so stupid for love, but our heart speaks. Sometimes, we're being stuck between these two forces, choosing what to follow for love, is it the heart over the mind or mind over the heart? My close friend told me that it should be the mind because it is where we develop our critical thinking about things that surround us especially when we talk about love. And in our heart the emotional aspect of love resides.
Weighing the two forces objectively, we should follow what our heart speaks. True love comes from within. It makes two people blind. No matter where they go, they can't see the things happening around them but all they know is to love each other. In my case, I'd rather experience the pain and cruelty of love than listen to the dictates of my mind. Sometimes the mind of others surrounding us is more powerful than ours. We let them decide of what's best for us. But it is a no-no. When it comes to falling for someone and choosing your partner in life, your decision still has a say. You're the one who is feeling for yourself not them. You're the one who can't sleep because your mind is too busy thinking of that someone. You're the one who can't eat because you're already full when you dream of him/her. So, people around you may give you best advises in life but sometimes you tend not to listen to them when we're in love. We get blinded and deaf at the same time.
Sometimes when we love, we keep on thinking, "is it right to fall for this person?" Our mind works what we believed in. Our heart speaks for no reason of falling in love. You just fall for a person for having no reasons at all. No conditions, no buts and ifs. That's the true meaning of love. When we love, we never seek for reasons why we fell in love with that person. It simply overflows from within.
The feeling of being in love is unexplainable. Sometimes you can't utter words, sometimes your mind doesn't work at all however you choose to have your own world. Lucky for us who already savor the sweetness of being in that state.
For you my dear readers who are still in waiting for the right one don't be in a hurry. Don't try the lines from the movie that goes this way, "Nagmahal ako kasi kailangan..." Wait for the right time to fall in love. You love because you felt that way, not you love because you need to. Don't force yourself by listening to other's conviction. Say, you're already 30 something, then what? If you're still single at that age, care! Simply put in your mind that the right one will come at the right time. Don't just grab someone from nowhere and force yourself to love that person because you're already almost in the finish line. Do you think you're fair? Don't experiment on love.
For some who are over blinded by love try this. Before you love someone see to it that you satisfy yourself with that feeling. You can't love someone if you don't know how to love yourself. I don't believe in the lines, "You complete me..." If you're an incomplete person you can't love. Don't give all you've got. Set aside a portion for yourself but don't be too selfish. Don't give the 100% love to that person but don't give a least percentage too. Remember that you love yourself first before loving someone. In cooking, to desire a tasteful menu, it requires exact and great proportions of all the ingredients. It applies in loving someone too. Always keep in mind that too much and too little love doesn't perfect the beauty of being in love.
To love is to exercise the right of your heart. Just don't ever think to abuse it.