Rational Insanity
Porn and something like it
We still aren't in the age where we simply have to slip a helmet over our heads and sit in a dark quiet room and wait for our brains to give us a virtual erection and eventually a virtual orgasm. This is the reason why porn still sells on the streets. For a mere fifty to seventy pesos we can all satisfy our carnal pleasures with the visual erotica that street vendors have to offer. I am not writing about porn in this week's column because I want to promote it, let's just say that information is still the best way to educate ourselves.
When I was teaching at a local caregiver training center I used to have my own porn stash. Aside from doing the personal thingy with it every once in a while, I found that these were actually really good audio visual material especially when teaching about the reproductive system and risky sexual behaviour.
Pornography can be very graphic but most of the time it is this quality of pornography that makes it effective. Unlike artists, most regular people require visual stimulation to effect a response to something. Artists are contented with a 'Lady Chatterly's Lover' or Anne Rice's novels when it comes to pornography because, since the mind is the most responsive sex organ, then the satisfaction that most intellectual people get from reading is far more exciting that just watching a video and being spoonfed with visual stimulus while you do your thing. At least if one leaves visualization to the mind, its much easier to replace the faces of the people in the material with the ones that are more familiar with you - after all, it's all in the imagination.
Now, going back to video pornography.
When I was still in high school, I used to take guilty opportunities to look at pornographic magazines and similar stuff. As I grew older I realized that most kids, whether you give it to them early on or not, will eventually discover that the flower is not really a flower and the candle is not really a candle. For Christ's sake, the candle and flower thingy is something like soft porn if you would put it more meaningfully. There are many things in life that young people don't look forward to and sex is definitely not one of those things. Kids will be kids, but when that stage is over it's that all of them already know what to do.
I think I would be totally perverted to expect parents to sit around in a living room and plug a pornographic video into the player for the kids to watch instead of Barney or Sesame Street, but it's unfortunate that the pornography that we find in the streets are just as easily accessible as buying cigarettes from a sari-sari store. If even malls could not put a cork on selling cigarettes to minors, how much more the porn vendor who does not have to worry about annual licenses, permits and registrations? What I am saying here is that if our kids should learn the 'big' thing, then let's at least make sure that they get that education from all the right people.
At least, when the time comes when all we need to do is to slip a helmet over our heads to experience a virtual orgasm, our kids would not be stupid enough to visualize a lighted candle dripping all over a wilted flower. How the hell could one get a hard on with that kind of imagery?
Parents, be more imaginative - try telling them about the kind of kiss that Prince Charming gave to Sleeping Beauty, tell them it had the tongue thing there, and that she didn't really open her eyes after that, she spread her legs, to be more accurate.
Be rational; be insane...every once in a while! TTFN!
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